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    So my ex-girlfriend got herself a new boyfriend within the span of a week of knowing him (possibly even just a couple of days...) She first met up with him for sex this Tuesday and became "Facebook Official" the next day. Now she wants to come by my house this Monday. Just to, y'know, hang out, as friends. No sex involved whatsoever.

    She can't even admit that she wants to come over to cheat on him. If I actually call her out on her BS, she'd throw a temper tantrum and block me like she's done in the past. She doesn't like it when you're "on" to her. I've tried to have a serious discussion with her on why she is the way she is, but she'll have none of it.

    I don't really get it myself... If she just wants to have multiple partners at once, there is such a thing as a polyamorous relationship. Or if she wants to go prostitute herself (like she's at least tried to do while she was with me...), go find a partner that's OK with that. But no, she needs to be with someone who's head over heels for her and wants her exclusively, but can't extend the same courtesy to them. The more you love her, the eager she becomes to cheat on you. She just seems to get a kick out of it.

    In any case, if she does per chance end up in my bed, should I actually feel bad for knowingly helping her cheat on her boyfriend? And do I have any obligation to tell her boyfriend about the type of person she is?

    Either way, it's a lot nicer to have her as an ex than a girlfriend... I'm still quite fond of her, though. She's kind of a bad girl, but... I guess I'm just drawn to bad girls. She's nice to have as a friend.
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      Editing … She sounds like the complete opposite I'd go for for a girl. I personally wouldn't do anything of the sorts. If she is dating someone and she wants sex go fuck your boyfriend. But that's up to you in the end. Also, I ended up not knowing your opinion about the movie.
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      Editing … Well, I didn't give my opinion on the movie. I simply marked this post as my "Fav of the Day." Opinions have a green icon. That said, I do intend to watch this movie at some point... My ex was a self-proclaimed nympho until she watched it, but realized she wasn't because she's "nowhere near as bad." No, no, she's definitely a nympho alright... I don't need to watch this movie to know that.
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      Editing … You need to forget her. I had lots of bad friends that used me for my money or just when they had nobody else to hang out with. I've slowly got rid of them one by one and now I just have a small group that treat me like a true friend should. Sure, I don't party every week now and sometimes I have nobody to do stuff with, we're all in in our 30s with families and jobs, but I'm a lot happier in general. Surround yourself with good, honest, true friends and get rid of people that make you feel shit.
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      Editing … Demi, can you please describe your ex gf´s looks? I wanna know what we're dealing here with, cause it certainly isnt't her charming personality you're attracted to, right? I mean, the girl is a mess. Don't put your dick in crazy.
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      Editing … I don't think she's especially gorgeous or anything because it seems to me like she has confidence and self esteem issues.
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      Editing … Personally I find her extremely hot. Like, she's still the most gorgeous girl in the world to me. She's 176cm tall and weighs 78kilos. She has a nice full physique that I find incredibly sexy. Unghh... that soft squishy belly... Anyway, she has blue-gray eyes, short raven black hair that she's currently dyed to blonde (what a waste, it's so rare for a caucasian person to have black hair in this region), and small breasts with adorable inverse nipples that pop out when she gets horny... lol. I practically worshiped her body when we were together, but it's definitely something she was/is unhappy about, especially because her younger sister has the "universal standard of beauty" hourglass physique, with massive knockers. Her mom certainly isn't helping either, having a knack for body-shaming her. As for her personality... I do find her personality really charming. She isn't just the person I described here. She can also be a fun person to hang out with. She likes playing Pokemon, textile arts n crafts, K-Pop, horror movies, etc. She doesn't smoke, drink, do drugs or any of that. She's not crazy, but she does have a form of autism (PDD-NOS) as well as Multiple Complex Developmental Disorders (MCDD) as a result of her getting meningitis as a toddler and almost dying. So yeah, she's "off," but so am I. I guess I feel a kinship with her as we were both diagnosed with psychological disorders as kids (for me it was ADHD and chronic depression, but when I spoke to a few psychologists and social workers as late as 2012, they all seemed to think I had autism). We both had to go through special schools and whatnot. She's quite immature for her age (20), but again, so am I. It's part of what draws me to her, I guess.
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      Editing … Yeah, that sounds exactly like what I expected. It's no surprise to hear that she has issues. Are they something that could improve? You aren't ever going to be truly happy if she doesn't. It's a shame if she's a nice person but you only get one life, you have to enjoy it.
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      Editing … Honestly, if she hadn't lived with her family and be so attached to her mom, our relationship may have actually worked out. Every time something went wrong, her mom was involved in some way. She puts her on such a high pedestal, even though it's pretty clear she doesn't have her best interests at heart, with the way she gets treated. She's become a bit more skeptical of her though, and has been in a lot of fights with her recently. I kinda wish she had a good friend she could move in with, but I don't know that she does... The people she calls "good friends" clearly aren't, and her "best friend" seems to change on a regular basis. She's definitely an extrovert though, unlike me. At least I know that I genuinely care for her, and want to see her healthy and happy, but I don't know how she views me. Am I at all special to her? She certainly wants to give me the impression that I am, but who knows... Also, it looks like she and her new boyfriend have already broken up...
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